Mending Fences
Started by Shelly
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Shelly
Your boundaries are not "just" how you teach other people how you will be treated. They reflect your principles, beliefs and virtues for how you live your life.
There will be many instances when relationships will test and tempt your boundaries of your morals, strengths and unique gifts. These challenges are necessary to help you discern who gets access, and how much, to what you have to offer in relationships of all kinds.
Boundaries are not hard concrete walls, rather wooden fences that can allow some things in, with your discretion, while keeping others at an appropriate distance.
They are not about making someone else do or not do "anything", rather an innate intelligence that informs you on what you do or do not do.
While some breeches in boundaries attempt to plow through, there are some that try to sneak through the open spaces. Our job at tending to the boundary is to discern which attempts get halted and replaced, which get further discussion, and which ones we look at a bit more closely.
As the great poet, Robert Frost, wrote, "good fences make good neighbors". Those who help mend the fence instead of pushing or sneaking thru make good neighbors. Have patience for them; they are out there, just like you. Let the boundary do the work.
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Shelly
Your boundaries are not "just" how you teach other people how you will be treated. They reflect your principles, beliefs and virtues for how you live your life.
There will be many instances when relationships will test and tempt your boundaries of your morals, strengths and unique gifts. These challenges are necessary to help you discern who gets access, and how much, to what you have to offer in relationships of all kinds.
Boundaries are not hard concrete walls, rather wooden fences that can allow some things in, with your discretion, while keeping others at an appropriate distance.
They are not about making someone else do or not do "anything", rather an innate intelligence that informs you on what you do or do not do.
While some breeches in boundaries attempt to plow through, there are some that try to sneak through the open spaces. Our job at tending to the boundary is to discern which attempts get halted and replaced, which get further discussion, and which ones we look at a bit more closely.
As the great poet, Robert Frost, wrote, "good fences make good neighbors". Those who help mend the fence instead of pushing or sneaking thru make good neighbors. Have patience for them; they are out there, just like you. Let the boundary do the work.